October 17th, 2005
Unifying Genre
From: SusanS@email.com
Subject: Information regarding your son
Hello Kim,
My name is Susan Sharp. I know you don't know me, but one of your co-worker's, Alison Sharp, is my daughter Amanda's sunday school teacher. She informed us that your son has a cochlear implant and that you and your husband are deaf. We have recently learned that our daughter Amanda has the option of having the cochlear implant surgery done. Her father and I are deaf as well as all of her friends and we feel that if she gets the surgery then she won’t be apart of the deaf culture she has grown up in. I was hoping that you could give me a parents perspective on the surgery.Sincerely,
Susan SharpFrom: Kimmy5@getmail.com
To: SusanS@email.com
Subject: Responses to your question
Susan,
I would be happy to share some of my feelings about my son Justin’s experience with you. To start off with let me just say that I completely understand how you are feeling. When my husband and I found out that Justin was a candidate for the implant we were oppossed to the idea. Like you, I felt that being deaf was a part of Justin’s culture. It was everything he knew. The doctor encouraged us to think the decision through before we gave him our final answer. We went home that day somewhat upset that the doctor didn’t understand. We felt that Justin’s deafness wasn’t something that needed to be cured or “fixed”.
Throughout the next week I read as much as I could on cochlear implants. I found a powerpoint presentation that helped me understand what a cochlear implant was. Even though I was opposed to the option, I felt I should at least know what I was denying my son. Eventually I realized that my opinion of the surgery had changed. I thought about all the things Justin would be able to do if he could enter into the “hearing world”. He would be able to enjoy the simple things in life such as listening to music or watching television without the closed captioning on. I also thought about all the times Justin had come home upset, because of the way people treated him. Most importantly, I realized that Justin would have so many more opportunities now as well in the future if he could communicate with the hearing world. I realized that to deny my son the chance to hear would be wrong.
I would love to hear back from you!
Kim Gains
From: SusanS@email.com
Subject: I would love to hear from you again!
Kim,Thank you so much for sharing your experience with me. I’m still much undecided about the decision I have to make regarding Amanda’s implant. I think I’m scared of how she will interact with us as well as with her friends. I’m also worried that she won’t fit in with her deaf friends anymore, but she won’t be a part of the hearing world either. Would you mind to share with me how Justin’s life changed after the surgery. I would appreciate any information you could give me.
Thanks,
Susan Sharp
From: Kimmy5@getmail.com
To: SusanS@email.com
Subject: More about Justin
Susan,It was good to hear from you again. Your e-mails remind me of how I felt and the decisions I faced before Justin’s implant. I must say that I’m glad I’m through that part of it! I’d be happy to share with you some of the changes that have occurred in Justin’s life since his surgery. At first I was worried how Justin’s deaf friends would react after he received his implant. They felt the same way about deaf culture that I did, and I felt that they would hold it against Justin and treat him like a traitor. In the beginning they did shut him out, but within a few days they seemed to forget about his situation. He continues to use ASL with his deaf friends as well as with his father and me. I spoke with Justin about your situation and he thought it might help to show you a few of his journal articles and a poem that he wrote.
The main change in Justin’s life is the communication mode that he uses and his schooling options. Before the surgery, Justin attended a school for deaf children. Although Justin will never hear and speak like regular children, his audiologist and SLP felt that he would benefit more from a speaking school. Since his father and I are deaf, he needs to receive auditory information from other sources. We found a wonderful school that provides Justin with all the resources he needs, but also allows him to interact with speaking children. Justin is very happy with his new school and has made many new friends (deaf children and speaking children). His teacher even writes us a letter every month to help us stay involved in his education. His SLP is working towards changing Justin’s communication mode to include speech as well as ASL. You may want to consider talking to Justin's SLP, Katie Frazier. You can contanct her by going to her webliography.
I hope I provided you with some useful information. I feel confident that we made the right decision in letting Justin receive a cochlear implant. He seems happier now that he ever has before.
Good Luck with everything,
Kim Gains